We are continuing with our list of ways to resist the negative words of others:
6.) We have been given spiritual weapons to overcome negative words. “They overcame him by the blood of the Lamb, and by the word of their testimony…” (Revelation 12:11). The “him” they overcame is the “accuser of the brethren” (see v. 10), which we have already identified in a previous post as the source behind critical words. Ephesians 6:16tells us that above all we are to take “the shield of faith, with which you will be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked.”
Faith speaks what is true, what is aligned with God’s Word — the word of our testimony. We must speak to ourselves (and it is a good idea to speak aloud) what is true according to God’s Word about who we are in Christ. It is also a good idea to verbally renounce the particular negative things that have been spoken, and to insist that we are not going to receive them. Hearing ourselves speak these things helps us.
7.) If we tell the story over and over of what evil things were said of us, we feed the curse; if we refrain from speaking about it, we starve it. By saying, “Somebody said such-and-such about me,” we repeat the curse in our own ears, thereby adding fuel to it. The more we hear it, the more we internalize it. Fires without fuel quickly die out.
8.) When something negative is spoken, speak blessing in return.
Finally, be all of one mind [in unity], having compassion one toward another; love as brethren, being pity-filled and courteous: not paying back evil for evil, or railing for railing, but rather, blessing – knowing that that is your calling, so that you will inherit a blessing. –1 Peter 3:8, 9
But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who despitefully use you and persecute you, that you may be the children of your Father who is in heaven …. – Matthew 5:44, 45
9.) Remember who your real enemy is. “For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against … spiritual wickedness in high places” (Ephesians 6:12).
10.) Remember who you are in Christ Jesus and what He says about you. There was a time when someone I highly esteemed said something very devastating to me, and for a while I had great difficulty thinking about anything else. But I finally heard God say ever so clearly, “It doesn’t matter what ________ thinks about you; what matters is what I speak over you.” If God says you are beautiful, you are. If God says you have great value, you do. If God says you have a wonderful future before you, He intends to take you there. And the best part is, He speaks these things over each one of us, without exception. But it is up to us to believe and appropriate what He says about us.
Resisting negative words is a battle. We must be vigilant to speak the truth over ourselves and to keep our minds from pondering the evil things which have been spoken against us. It involves tirelessly “bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ” (2 Corinthians 10:5). But as we practice exercising control over our thoughts, we get better at it, and the victory comes.
Speaking as the Oracles of God & Resisting Negative Words audio teaching (CD or mp3 download)