We said that God not only covered our sin with Jesus’ blood; He washed it away. This is also how He wants us to look at other people’s sin against us. When God forgives us, He chooses to forget our sin. He wants us to choose not to remember their sin anymore, either. Once we have forgiven them, as far as we are concerned, their sin is erased, not merely covered. We can’t peek under a covering at their sin any more than we can for our own forgiven sin. It is gone, and we must treat it that way. This is especially true if the process of asking and giving forgiveness has taken place between us and the one who has offended us.
We can be like God in the completeness of our forgiving:
Jeremiah 31:34 – For I will forgive their wickedness, and I will remember their sin no more.
We can determine that once we have forgiven an offense, we will never mention it to the offender again.
Ezekiel 33:16 – None of their past sins will be brought up again ….
We can decide to forgive — even if the person does not ask forgiveness — and choose to forget the offense. This means if we find ourselves at future times thinking again about the hurtful incident, we say, “God, I forgave _____________, and I’m not going to dredge that up again in my mind.”
Forgiveness is not easy, because our emotions get in the way. But as we keep on choosing to forgive, remind ourselves that we have forgiven, and ask God to take away the hurt from our insides, eventually our emotions line up with our righteous decision to forgive.
If you are harboring any unforgiveness toward anyone and you would like to be free, here’s a simple prayer of release to help you:
Father, I have been hurt so badly by ____________, but I choose to forgive right now. I understand that ____________’s sin against me is now erased, as far as how I must look at it. Please give me grace to not remember the offense anymore, and to love ____________ as though it had never happened. I ask you to take away my hurt, and to set the matter right. Thank You that You are faithful to do the healing in my heart. In Jesus’ Name I pray.